I have heard that argument before and the riposte given which is that there is currently nothing to stop a predatory man just wandering into a women's changing room anyway, in a dress or not. They're not fortresses, guarded by gender bouncers. And claiming that you're a trans woman doesn't give you a magical shield protecting you from repercussions - you can't sit there as an obvious man in a dress, staring at naked women and be immune to being thrown out or the police being called because you claim to be trans. It's not giving sexual predators any more licence than they currently have.Donny osmond wrote:I dont think anyone has a problem with trans people using changing rooms, the problem is predatory men abusing the system to prey on women/girls. I'm not talking about self id either, rather there are plenty of men out there who will do whatever it takes to manufacture an opportunity to exercise some power over females. Again I'd like to stress I'm not talking about demonizing trans women here, its easy to recognize that trans people are more likely than anyone else to be abused, I'm talking about men who are sexual predators taking whatever chance they can get.Puja wrote: I'm genuinely not trying to pick a fight or be snide or difficult. Just to make that clear, because it isn't always in text. I acknowledge TERF is an emotionally charged label and probably wasn't the best choice of word from me. I wasn't meaning to denigrate the women you know, just noting that you seemed to be implying that these opinions were held by women as a whole ("It's not me [saying this], it's other women") and, while that might be true for the women you know, it's not true for the women I know, so there's not a united front on the matter. Hence the "not all women" quip.
I still don't get why counting trans women as women reduces the identity of cis women. The argument that they lose women-only spaces is predicated on the idea that trans women are secret men, trying to get extra things, which I've established is ridiculously unlikely because being a trans woman in this society is rubbish and no-one is going to pretend to it just to get into a women's refuge. The changing rooms and toilets angle also carries the wonderful assumption that, not only are trans women all blokes in dresses, but they're perverts, criminals, and rapists. When, in reality, they're just people who want to have a piss. Kind of ignores the fact that women are fine wih lesbians being in changing rooms, who are a lot more likely to be interested in naked female bodies than trans women (who aren't keen to be flashing their own bits around either - see the shitness of being trans in this society).
Even if we leave aside all of that, what do non-trans women actually lose by treating trans women as women? How are their rights diminished? What change is there to their lives and their fight for equality?
Puja
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And, apart from that, look at it from the perspective of the trans women. If women need a safe space to change or to urinate, don't trans women need that too? Where do they go? Do they have to change in the men's where they are much more likely to meet male sexual predators or do they just not get to use the swimming pool/clothes shop/wherever with the heavily implication that it's because they're probably a sexual predator.
Aside from anything else, is no-one bothered about lesbian sexual predators anymore? That used to be a thing - that lesbians shouldn't be allowed to use public changing rooms or toilets because they would obviously forget their need to piss and try to assault all the straight women they could get their hands on. Nice to see society has moved a bit, but just onto a new target for the scare story.
Puja