Zhivago wrote:Stom wrote:Zhivago wrote:
Genuine question now for you Stom - how have you found integrating? Is the culture so removed from British that you found it impossible, or have you managed to find a half-way house?
I'm obviously not referring to homophobia here, but in general about living in Hungary.
I’ve not integrated, that’s how.
I live in a bubble. My kids go to Waldorf/Steiner, so I’m usually surrounded by liberals, creatives and libertarians. While I try to avoid the latter, or avoid shop with them, they really do show some very nasty traits.
This country truly is extraordinarily sexist. And that rolls over into homophobia and transphobia. Racism isn’t such a big problem among the educated crowd, except against the Roma.
The government is obviously anti Semitic and Islamaphobic.
Attitudes formed over many years are hard to change. I would probably find it hard to integrate if I were to move to Ukraine, luckily we found a 'neutral' country to live in. But just today I read news that in Ukraine they had a military march with women soldiers wearing high heels. It's completely asbsurd. I do think attitudes are changing though, but it takes time.
They're not. Scientifically.
They're only thoughts. All you need to do is change those thoughts...Sure, it's not "easy", but it's most definitely worth doing. I know I've changed my thoughts a lot over the past decade. Hell, I've changed a lot of thoughts over the past 2 years. Continuing the myth that "Deep seated attitudes are hard to change" simply plays into the racists, homophobes and bigots.
You're saying: "It's fine to be a cwnt, because your grandfather was a cwnt, so it's built into your psyche." No, no it's not. Change the thought.
Gay people have as much right to every single part of society as we do. They're humans just like us, the only difference is that they like, lust and love members of the same sex. And then, why the hell shouldn't there be people who consider themselves different. Bi, asexual, and so on (though I'll be honest, I still don't get what pansexual means. Isn't it just "I'm bisexual, but would rather invent a new term for myself"?
OK, wait, this just confused the hell out of me...
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articl ... definition
I'd been thinking for years that sex = man, woman, intersex. Gender = what you identify with. So biSEXual means you're attracted to men and women (and intersex). Not you're attracted to multiple genders, as there could potentially be unlimited genders. One is scientific, the other is social.
Gah.
Isn't this just another case of society being an arse to a group of people over many years and that group is trying to find their new identity now that they're starting to get more freedoms (in some countries).
Back to the question at the core...
Your thoughts are your attitudes. If you believe that they are difficult to change, you're not going to change them and you'll remain bigoted. If you want to be more accepting of people who are not like you, then change your thoughts around them.
It's that simple. It might not be easy, but who cares?! LIFE is not easy for the people you are too lazy to change your attitude toward.
Yes, lazy, that's what you're being if you can't treat a HUMAN BEING with simple humanity.