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Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 11:59 am
by Lizard
Hey. It’s been a while. Anyone still here who remembers me?
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:00 pm
by Lizard
I could just use a little anonymous support right now.
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:05 pm
by Puja
Good to see you back! What's up? (PMs open if you'd prefer)
Puja
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:19 pm
by Lizard
Hey man. Thank you.
Don’t know why I came on here really. I guess in the old days I felt it was somewhere I belonged.
One of my close work colleagues, who I’ve worked with daily for 5 years, but has been at my firm for 33 years, passed away suddenly overnight From a heart attack. She was more than just my PA. She was my office rock. My wife called her my “work wife”. I’m just so distraught.
I’m devastated for her husband and 2 boys. But I’m finding it real hard to sort my personal grief (I’m in tears just typing this) while looking after my other people at work and figuring out how we will cope without her.
Having written this out, I realise I’m not looking for solutions or sympathy; just a neutral forum to express something.
How about those Chiefs, eh?
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:21 pm
by Lizard
Obvs have quite a few drinks under the belt too. How else do proper blokes deal with emotional shit?
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 1:31 pm
by Mellsblue
Lizard wrote: ↑Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:21 pm
Obvs have quite a few drinks under the belt too. How else do proper blokes deal with emotional shit?
There is no other way. Do some form of sport, preferably something manly, eg rugby or weight lifting, and then get really drunk. It’s medically proven, I read about it in Playboy a couple of decades ago.
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 2:18 pm
by Puja
Lizard wrote: ↑Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:19 pm
Hey man. Thank you.
Don’t know why I came on here really. I guess in the old days I felt it was somewhere I belonged.
One of my close work colleagues, who I’ve worked with daily for 5 years, but has been at my firm for 33 years, passed away suddenly overnight From a heart attack. She was more than just my PA. She was my office rock. My wife called her my “work wife”. I’m just so distraught.
I’m devastated for her husband and 2 boys. But I’m finding it real hard to sort my personal grief (I’m in tears just typing this) while looking after my other people at work and figuring out how we will cope without her.
Having written this out, I realise I’m not looking for solutions or sympathy; just a neutral forum to express something.
How about those Chiefs, eh?
Oh man, I'm so sorry. Make sure you give yourself time to recover and grieve as well; don't fall into the trap of making yourself super busy looking after everyone else. Abnegation is no substitute for having time and space to yourself.
You've been missed on here. Chiefs are doing okay. Weird how their upturn in form has synched with them reluctantly letting Gatland go off to Wales.
Puja
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 3:35 pm
by morepork
Liz you big silly. Everyone here loves you and wishes you well. That is a pretty shitty loss, but you will heal. Just don't get all Leaving Las Vegas on us.
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 4:45 pm
by Numbers
Lizard wrote: ↑Thu Apr 06, 2023 12:19 pm
Hey man. Thank you.
Don’t know why I came on here really. I guess in the old days I felt it was somewhere I belonged.
One of my close work colleagues, who I’ve worked with daily for 5 years, but has been at my firm for 33 years, passed away suddenly overnight From a heart attack. She was more than just my PA. She was my office rock. My wife called her my “work wife”. I’m just so distraught.
I’m devastated for her husband and 2 boys. But I’m finding it real hard to sort my personal grief (I’m in tears just typing this) while looking after my other people at work and figuring out how we will cope without her.
Having written this out, I realise I’m not looking for solutions or sympathy; just a neutral forum to express something.
How about those Chiefs, eh?
Firstly my sincerest condolences, try and focus on the positive times you spent with her that's how I normally try to process grief, it may bring the odd tear but also some smiles at the good times.
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 9:28 pm
by Lizard
Thanks guys. That actually really helps.
Re: Hey
Posted: Thu Apr 06, 2023 11:59 pm
by Puja
Lizard wrote: ↑Thu Apr 06, 2023 9:28 pm
Thanks guys. That actually really helps.
Shit. I think being helpful goes against the board rules.
Puja
Re: Hey
Posted: Fri Sep 22, 2023 9:59 am
by kk67
Apologies for revisiting old threads but I also have had three mates from Uni' die in the last 18 months. One from alcoholism, one from lung cancer and one from a head injury. I'm only 56 but mortality is definitely starting to occupy my thoughts more than I'd like.
Re: Hey
Posted: Sat Sep 23, 2023 7:57 am
by Lizard
That’s tough, mate. Sorry to hear about your friends.